Something has clicked for me in this past year. A lightbulb went off, an a-ha moment, an awakening; call it whatever you like, but a shift has taken place. I’m embracing who I am more then I ever have before. I’m ok with my size 14 frame, but still continue to work on improvements to my diet and fitness. I’m content with being a stay at home mom while still dreaming and setting goals. I adore our home, but continue to make tweaks. I’ve embraced the day to day life of motherhood, but still have bad days, obviously.
There are a few things I’ve done to make this shift.
- I take stock in all the things I’m appreciative for in my life. For example, when I start thinking ” I wish our house was bigger”, I switch gears and instead think of how incredibly lucky we are to have a house (in this insane Vancouver market) with a big beautiful backyard and enough space for our family + family and friends have a place to stay when they visit.
- I now use social media as a source of inspiration rather then a place to compare. “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Is it ever. My social media feed is now filled with women with bodies of various shapes, sizes, backgrounds, capabilities, and ages. Seeing women who are living different lives and embracing who they are is so inspiring. I think there is a shift happening right now. We are craving more REAL and ignoring the fake.
- I no longer seek the approval of others. I’m a total people pleaser and with this comes a desire to have others like me. Like me in my personal life, work life, and on social media. I obviously don’t want to be disliked, however, I no longer change my personality to appease others. I am who I am. I’m silly most of the time, kinda awkward, I absolutely laugh at my own jokes (and way too hard sometimes), I have squishy bits on my body, I’m not the best at getting back to people right away, I love my friends and family hard, I stand up for those who can’t stand up for themselves, and I like to use an accent of some kind whenever I can. At the end of the day, it is really none of my business what others think of me.
On top of all of this, I feel like I’ve also come into my personal style. I wear brands and shop at stores that carry clothes that work with my curves. I put this outfit on and felt amazing in it. It was comfortable, pretty, and even kind of sexy. I think the mental shift is the biggest factor in my style coming together. I now choose clothes that work for the life I have and I dress to please myself. Confidence is everything.